Your Children are the centre of your life, you would do anything for them, the love you have for them is like no other! They are the most important thing to you, and you care about their happiness.
This is how I believe most Mum’s feel – whether you have connected with being a Mother.
You only want to protect them.
The truth is – I believe our Love and intention comes from the same place but it’s our behaviour and influence that can either have a positive or negative impact on them.
I remember the day I had a massive realisation, when the truth finally hit me, and woke me up!
It’s because of that realisation that keeps me on my path today no matter how tough or painful life gets.
Before I tell you what that realisation is, I want to share with you how I ended up getting there.
It was back in 2007 when my life turned up side down, I went from being in a successful career, living a life of financial freedom and enjoying life. Travelling, going out with my friends, buying clothes, treating myself to lots of self care – hair, nails, shopping trips to London, you name it! My partner and I ate out nearly every weekend – it was a great lifestyle!
In 2007 I lost one of my closest friends to cancer. The job I was in lost a massive contract. I was told I would never be able to have children and was put on gruesome fertility treatment. I then discovered I had a Sister my Dad told me nothing about for 11 years – to say it was a testing year was an understatement. I suffered with anxiety attacks and went from being a positive person and flowing in life to feeling weak, lost and fed up.
In 2008 I gave birth to my miracle daughter, Lola Faith, my gift <3
But I still was the same person, 2007 and every other bad experience in my life had defined me.
In 2011 life hit rock bottom again, we nearly lost our business and nearly had to declare ourselves bankrupt. It was horrible – not being able to pay ourselves, struggling to even buy my daughter a beaker.
And then I woke up…!
You see it wasn’t just about me anymore, was it?
I will never forget the day, I was feeling fed up and frustrated, my partner had taken our daughter out and I didn’t feel like going – I was feeling completely depressed like never before.
We had just, only just, saved our business from going under. We had to make some real tough decisions and go back to the start, from getting rid of our staff, office and everything we had built up so far.
I was doing the housework and I had a Freddie Mercury moment! For the sake of copyright, visualise Freddie in his get up, feather duster and hoover 🙂
Whilst hoovering the hallway, it hit me.
There has to be more to life!!
Ok you’ve got the song in your head too? I want to” break free”.
So I asked myself these 2 questions…
What is the life I really want to be living?
Then the next one came that hit me straight in the heart and bolted me awake more than the best alarm clock in the world ever could!
What kind of role model do I want to be for my daughter?
As I write this to you, I feel so grateful and blessed to be here now, a feeling of goose bumps has risen all over my body and a sicky fear feeling in my tummy – what would have happened if I never woke up?!
I want my daughter to know she can achieve anything she wants to, she can achieve her dreams, there are no limitations. I wish for her to remain kind, show empathy with others and be grateful.
Most importantly, I want her to know she is
GOOD ENOUGH AND WORTH IT
I don’t want her to settle or play small in this world and not make the most of the precious life she was given.
And above all else, I want her to be truly
TO FEEL LOVE AND BE ABLE TO GIVE LOVE
So if I wanted this for my daughter, I had to become this myself.
Otherwise why would she feel and believe it, if I am not.
After all Mum’s are their children’s biggest influencers.
Let me ask you
Are you leading the way for your children?
How has your Mum influenced your life?
My Mum never felt good enough about herself – not going after her dreams, limiting herself, not treating herself and she powered through life on survival!
I know this was of no fault of her own, but still had a big influence on me. There is no need to pass blame on our parents, but just take responsibility for what we can do in our present moment and our children’s future.
Matthew Hussey, is a true example of how his Mum influenced his life. If you don’t know Matthew, – he is one of the top leading coaches and human behaviour experts who has had incredible success all over the world! He is not even thirty yet!!
In this video he backs up my beliefs and the true heartfelt message behind my purpose at Mumazing.
Click here to discover how his Mum’s influence has played a huge part in his success, enjoy!